Kisses- seeking a bit of clarity.

Have you ever thought about how many ‘grey areas’ there are in life? Or how people perceive certain situations and events, differently?

I’ve been hit lately by how many instances I take to mean one thing and think that’s how everyone views about them, then actually realised we each have our own, separate idea of what’s going on. Sorry that sounds a bit cryptic.

Let me explain. An example I’ve been thinking about lately involves communication. In this day and age, texting people is huge. I rarely ever call people because texting seems more acceptable, and calling people just seems like I need to have something urgent to say to them.

But texting people is a MASSIVE GREY area. Why? Well largely because of the ‘sign off.’ Now this may come as a shock to you (men), but ~90% of girls (well pretty much all the girl friends I know) struggle with and will think about the ‘Xs’ you put (or don’t put) after a text. I have no idea how it got this far, believe me.

How a girl sees it:

Do you just put one X to everyone? Do you send an ‘X’ to boys who are your friends? And what if a boy texts you and puts more than one? Surely he’s just over friendly, or maybe he’s into you, right?!

 If he doesn’t put anything, he just wants to be friends. Obviously.

And girls, texting girls. Just to prove how much I love you I am going to fill your text with kisses so there’s more kisses than words. Because, babes, you're worth it.

Now, having said that, I’m not claiming innocence of ‘X-analysis.’ I have indeed tried (and failed) to decipher that code. BUT it drives me nuts. I can’t believe the whole sending ‘X’s after texts is an actual thing.

There’s been more grey areas that I’ve been struggling with lately, namely things to do with relationships and the whole going out for coffee/ lunch/ drinks and the friend/ potential interest barrier. It’s all very complex! But I’ve yet to decide my stance on them. If you know me personally, then feel free to ask me what my thoughts on them are, I‘d definitely love to get more people’s opinions on them. 

The whole clarity thing is hard. We want to know what we mean to people, where we stand in friendships (or relationships) and where we’re headed. Yet sometimes it can be so hard to read, things are often way more complicated because of two different minds and hearts being involved. And although it’s the grey areas that are the most frustrating and confusing, it’s also what adds interest and mystery into our lives. We can’t know everything.

For someone who likes to be pretty open and honest as much as possible, this revelation makes me a bit uneasy. I like knowing where I stand and letting people know where they stand with me so that we can both feel comfortable. I hate people feeling uncomfortable around me. Yet, I still have areas of uncertainty with my friends or relatives where I’m not sure where I stand. Which in all honesty is a bit pants.

Anyway, although I may not be able to clear up all of the unknowns, and I know, I know one step at a time, but with regards to the kisses issue… I feel challenged to be intentional in the ‘X’s department.

From now on I won’t send an X to anyone, bar maybe my family. Not because I don’t love you or like you any less, but because you should (hopefully) have some idea of where I stand with you,  and if you don’t please feel free to chat with/ask me- don’t read into the lack of ‘X’s!

oh and just to lighten up your day/ week, google swimming pigs. You won't regret it. 

FYI: I LOVE PIGS.